Marriage Is Not a Vibe—It’s a Vow with a Warpath

Marriage, like every other institution God made, exists for His glory.

Not your romance.

Not your Pinterest board.

Not your emotional highs.

Its earthly purpose?

To build a household.

Not just a house.

A household—a mission base.

A unit forged in blood covenant where children are raised, work is shared, legacy is formed, and Christ is enthroned.

It is not a date night with a mortgage.

It is a forge.

The modern version of marriage is a joke.

People treat it like a vending machine:

Put in your commitment.

Press the “compatibility” button.

Wait for happiness and validation to drop into your hand.

And when it doesn’t?

When they realize the other person won’t complete them?

They quit.

“Irreconcilable differences.”

Translation: two selfish people who tried to extract joy without offering sacrifice.

But real marriage—biblical marriage—isn’t about taking.

It’s about joining.

It’s covenant. It’s co-labor.

It’s one flesh, one direction, one eternal mission.

Marriage doesn’t work because you’re best friends.

It works because you’re both yoked to something higher than your feelings.

When couples tell me they’re on the brink, I ask one thing:

“What do you two do together—besides sleep and stream?”

The answer is almost always passive:

“We watch shows.”

“We sit together.”

“We go out sometimes.”

That’s not unity.

That’s cohabitation.

You want a bulletproof marriage?

Build together.

Bleed together.

Fix the sink.

Raise a child.

Paint a wall.

Start a business.

Clean the church.

Fight debt side-by-side.

Serve.

Grind.

Pray.

Sweat.

Do something together that costs you both.

My wife and I once taped memory verses on the wall of our bedroom—because the only free wall in our two-bedroom place with five kids was our room.

We wrote like children.

It wasn’t sexy. It wasn’t cinematic.

But it was covenant in action.

It was us pulling the plow as one.

That’s what builds a household.

Not vibes.

Not hashtags.

Not sitting next to each other in silence while the walls rot.

So here’s your gut check:

What are you building with your spouse?

Are you working toward something that outlives both of you?

Or are you just consuming the same air?

Marriage is war.

And a household is your base.

Build it. Guard it. Bleed for it.

Because hell doesn’t fear your aesthetics.

Hell fears your obedience.

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